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They say everyone is good at something. My mom can tie cherry stems into knots with her tongue. My tenth grade English teacher looked alarmingly natural in pirate shirts. I once saw a man scale a 30-foot coconut tree with his bare extremities. Personally, I have a long history of romancing incredible men\u2026who live very far away from me. It is a history that dates back to the preteen era: my first kiss occurred at a punk show (Clit 45, inappropriately enough) in Costa Mesa, California, approximately 1,000 miles south of my hometown. His name was Kevin. It didn\u2019t work out.<\/p>\n

A couple of years later, I fell head over heels for a punk rock Adonis at a tiny gig in Seattle. I can\u2019t remember my exact tactics, but I somehow acquired his email address, which was surely a Hotmail account. That was it. I would finally have my mohawked boyfriend I had so longed for throughout my rural Washington existence. I gathered the courage to e-ask him out. He e-laughed, and informed me that he lived in New Jersey.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to sound like Ludacris by saying I have hoes in different area codes<\/a> or anything, but I must admit, traveling romances and meeting men who are just passing through has turned into an unwanted skill. I think guys can just smell the unavailability when you step off the plane, ya know? Whether it’s Portland or Paris, I\u2019ve found myself loving from afar more than a couple of times. It has turned into some cruel joke at this point, but fortunately, I have a wonderful sense of humor. Ha. Ha.<\/p>\n

Typically, when someone sees a continual pattern in their life, they might try to thwart it, or at least analyze why it keeps happening. But I tend to just score the phenomena with appropriate songs. Which is kind of like giving someone who\u2019s starving an issue of Food and Wine Magazine<\/em> instead of making them a sandwich?<\/p>\n

I guess my point is, this week I am saluting the long-distance love song. We\u2019ve all missed someone, so naturally, there is an entire canon of music to nurse such a woe. One of my favorites is the unbearably obvious, but undeniably good \u201cSo Far Away\u201d by Carole King from her groundbreaking LP Tapestry. <\/em>\u201cSo Far Away\u201d exists within a mini-theme of the album, which includes \u201cWay Over Yonder\u201d and \u201cWhere You Lead-\u201d tracks that likewise express a\u00a0longing for faraway things. \u201cSo Far\u201d takes the trophy, however, as it is the only song with the required dose of hopelessness lyrically. What can I say? I don\u2019t like half-assed sad. Might as well do it right. King laments her solitude by wryly asking: \u201cDoesn\u2019t anybody stay in one place anymore?\u201d No, Carole. No.<\/p>\n

The great thing about love songs is their ability to be universal, but also to be even more universal in their specificity. I am in utter admiration not only of the fact that humans went beyond inventing the wheel and created the love song, but also that there are so many iterations and sub-genres of such. I can\u2019t think of a more absurdly specific faraway tune than \u201cCome Back From San Francisco\u201d by the morose Magnetic Fields, who excel at writing a particular brand of pathetic love song. It is probably one of the most alienating miss-you tunes, with its nods to bisexual, novelist city dwellers, but, being a pretentious music journalist living in New York City, I\u2019d say it\u2019s right on the money for me.<\/p>\n

When we zoom in on music this much or any medium for that matter, there is always the risk of ruining things; it\u2019s fair to ask if we are accidentally taking the soul out of it all. Getting too close can expose blemishes, imperfections, or worse, isolate the beautiful abstract from the mere molecules; like reminding someone that gravy is essentially boiled blood. I want to keep these songs categorized as gravy, but I like to dig a little deeper. I like to see how the gravy is made.<\/p>\n

It is funny, and also frustrating that though all of humanity has felt the sensation of longing for another person, only a select few of us can distill that longing into an art form. Painters paint, sculptors sculpt, and of course, songwriters write songs. The rest of us make playlists, mixtapes, CDs. They are in a way collages or monuments of found objects\u2026a kind of paint-by-numbers for those of us who know dick about color theory. It feels democratic, even like recycling to use someone else\u2019s song to express your adoration for a far off lover. Because in the age of text and email, how do you expect to get your weightiest points across? Emoji?<\/p>\n

There is, of course, snail mail, but what\u2019s in a letter that hasn\u2019t been bested by Tom Waits singing about slow-grown love in \u201cLong Way Home<\/a>\u201d off of Orphans: Brawlers, Bawlers and Bastards<\/em>? Chances are what you pen in that note won\u2019t be sticking in anyone\u2019s head the way a ballad can. To forge an association between yourself and a song in someone else\u2019s mind is like snagging free ad space during the Super Bowl. That sounds creepy, but you know what I mean.<\/p>\n

A classic phrase for the faraway is: \u201cWish You Were Here,\u201d but I will spare you the Pink Floyd and Incubus references. Nick Lowe has his own version from 1983\u2019s The Abominable Showman<\/em>, which could sneak by as an upbeat number if it weren\u2019t for the subject matter. Because despite all of the puns and harmonies, there is still a lack that can only be answered thus: \u201chaving said that my dear\/how I wish that you were here.\u201d<\/p>\n

Of course, at the end of the day, someone has to offer a solution to all of this wanting. Who better to lay down a piece of his mind than Bob Dylan, who closes 1969\u2019s Nashville Skyline <\/em>with one of my favorite songs in this category, \u201cTonight I\u2019ll Be Staying Here With You.\u201d It is the quintessential, end-of-the-romantic-comedy song, in which the protagonist disrupts some form of transportation to spend at least a little more time with the object of their affection. In movies, it\u2019s usually a plane. With Dylan, it\u2019s obviously a train.<\/p>\n

\u201cThrow my ticket out the window\/Throw my suitcase out there too\/Throw my troubles out the door\/I don’t need them anymore\/’Cause tonight I’ll be staying here with you.<\/p>\n

I should have left this town this morning\/But it was more than I could do\/Oh, your love comes on so strong\/And I’ve waited all day long\/For tonight when I’ll be staying here with you.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It\u2019s the end we all hope for, but that few can afford. Finding a new suitcase and train ticket were obviously within Dylan\u2019s realm of financial capabilities. But I\u2019d like to end with this one, because despite the rest, it\u2019s the one song within this hyper-specific class that at the very least offers a modicum of hope\u2026that maybe throwing caution, and one\u2019s worldly possessions to the literal wind and living off impulse is a very good idea. That remains to be seen, but at least we can commiserate with a few songs before taking that leap off the train, so to speak.<\/p>\n